The power of positive assumption and putting it out there... Xxx

I was at work a while ago and one of my co workers says to the other 'You're settling in well here aren't you?' To which he responded 'Yes, I kinda am.' Now although I didn't think he hadn't settled in badly, I didn't think it was over spectacular either.

But it was interesting how that simple but leading question elicited a positive response.

I liken that to pre-paving. This is where you set your intention before you enter into a situation. How do you want to feel? How do you want it to unfold? This helps focus your energy on how you would like things to be. And hopefully, it will turn out nicely. And even if it doesn't, ah well, just make the best of the poop!

You can help shift your relationship with someone by entering in with some positive expectation.

For example, if a child calls out to their parent, and mother responds 'What's wrong honey?' in a gentle concerned manner, they're more like to get a more honest, less defensive reply than if they shout to the infant 'What have you done now?!' It can be like that with adults- approach someone like a spider ready to sink it's fangs in and you'll likely get a defensive reaction.

Instead, do your best to walk into as many situations with positive expectation. If it works then yay, if not, at least you did your best and in any case you're pre paving for what's down the line for you. Be happy and screw the rest- their happiness is optional and of no concern of yours!

Happy assumption-ing!!!

Lots of love, Nick Xxx